Remember Love Before Sex?

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Living in a sexless relationship can be troubling.

You feel like you should be more connected physically.

It feels weird to be in a relationship without sex. After all, without it, what are you…roommates??

But…remember if you’ve been in love before without having sex with the person.

Compare it to drinking. Once upon a time, 8 year olds went to birthday parties and didn’t say, “Gee, I hope they have alcohol!”

Same thing with sex.

Remember a time when you were in a romantic relationship and sex wasn’t involved. Did it change your feelings about that person or not?

This is one of my favorite questions to ask clients:

When have you ever been madly connected to — maybe even in love with — someone, but sex wasn’t available to the relationship?

This week, consider a time when you were deeply connected to someone in a relationship without sex.

Was that ever the case with your current partner?

How was that possible?

And, how can it be possible now?

You may still very, very much want to conquer the challenges that prevent you from having a relationship with a strong sexual connection.

Yet, while you’re working on that, can you find a way to think loving thoughts and feel loving feelings that make you feel deeply connected?

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